I have this
co-worker with a mouth on him, swears like a drunken sailor. In
fact he is a drunken sailor, although I can't actually prove the
drunk part. Or the sailor part. I can avoid the mamaluke
most of the time, but it's a tap dancing school, and most of the
students are not old enough to cross streets by themselves. Plus
there is something just this side of creepy the way he shuffles
off to Buffalo. Plus, he's the boss's nephew.
I was assistant coaching with the CYO basketball league of Our Lady
of Fatima, ( I'm short, but I can jump) and one of the other assistant
coaches had a mouth on her, and played favorites, and joked, ha
ha, but not really, with all the cool kids, who thought who they
were. We had a great record, though, so no one wanted to say boo.
I don't care about the winning, the gavonna wasn't right.
So, I think to myself, what's the deal here?
I asked myself-
do I have the firepower to take her on, and besides, what does it
matter, she's just some jamoke, and these kids, their parents
should be looking out for them, not me. AND YET... when you send
a kid to a church you think they'll come back better not worse (hah!)
So I told her off. Nicely, not in front of the kids. PS... next
day, I got fired, which was a nice trick because they weren't paying
me to begin with. But her sister was the head nun at the parish
school, and the family forked over, you know what I'm saying? I
should have figured. Anyhow, with regards to your situation, I can't
tell you what to do, but I can tell you what to think about
#1- Is this a battle
you can win? Yes no maybe
#2. Is your
honor involved? Yes no maybe
IF #1 is yes,
go for it. #2 is not an issue.
If #1 is no,
#2 is no, let it sit.
If #1 is no,
#2 is yes, then you are obliged to take him on full steam, honor
If #1 is no
#2 is maybe, see next to last.
If #1 is maybe,
#2 is no, again, you may take a pass
If #1 is maybe
#2 is yes, maybe is upgraded to yes, take him on.
If #1 is maybe
and #2 is maybe, that equals out to fahgeddaboutit, unless you have
trouble sleeping over it, in which case, you may have a yes in there
OK then, I
am completely done here, and the girl is coming to clean the house
and I haven't straightened up yet. God bless, Donna
Alas my son-in-law
played kissy face with a cheap slut. I'm not surprised; his father
had a reputation, that's how that goes. I warned, I warned, but
my daughter was having no part of it. Now her heart is broken and
she is wrought with anger. They are trying to decide to stay together
or split for good, but in the meantime are living together with
the children like normal family. It is not easy for a mother to
keep her mouth shut. I weep at the thought of the entire affair
and my nerves are a wreck. Advice from a wise one such as you would
and mother-in law
forget about the mother in law part, that's a no starter.In this
situation you are the mother, period. You can only be a
mother in law,
if your actual child has become the founder of a functioning new
family. Now, it looks like they have made a start at one, but the
fact that the palooka has been playing around (and we'll take that
one as given, but honestly, unless you saw it yourself, you don't
really know the skinny, but let's say you do) means it's in terrible
peril. If you can, stay out of it. That's not only wise but safe.
My neighbor Emmalina spoke against her son's wife which was understandable
because the young woman in question should have had a turnstyle
installed outside the bedroom door, but the son and his wife reconciled,
and they ended moving down the Jersey shore but not before they
took a pipe to Emmalina's prize knick knack shelf where she displayed
all her Lladros after a heated conversation over cannolis. It wasn't
pretty and the law, shall we say, became involved. If
for some reason involving either the mental or physical well being
ofyour child or grandchildren, you have to interfere, this is what
you can expect:
a. the blame
for ending the marriage, even if you weren't the one
b. the blame
for trying to keep them apart, only you couldn't their
love was too
Which is to
say, either way YOU will take the fall. Logic doesn't enter
ABOUT THE AUTHOR
Monk is a full time faculty member of Penn State University, where
she teaches creative writing, both fiction and non fiction. She
pursues freelance writing, authoring plays and feature articles.
She has broken nearly as many rules of family as she has enforced.
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