My husband and I have been together
for a long time, and he has always been kind, never cheated doesn't
beat me. He makes a good living. But he wants to move, for a promotion,
to another state. On the one hand, it would be a come up for him,
a classier operation than the one he is in now, a pay raise, more
respect from certain quarters that matter to him. On the other hand,
we have a very nice set up here, my friends and family are near
and I have a good job. There is no such promise if I move. He says
he wants me to be happy, and I won't be happy if I move. But I won't
be happy if we don't move and he isn't happy. This whole thing is
driving us both pazzu. What can you tell me?
Not wanting to spoil a good thing,
This is a half dozen of one, six of
the other thing. How you've been is a good indication of how you
will be, though not always. Can he stay with a gracious heart? Can
you go with one? If one of you can come up with the right attitude
you will be fine, no resentment. If neither of you can, then your
marriage is in trouble, I am sorry to say., no matter how good your
jobs or where you live. If you can move without resentment do so.
If you cannot, take the heat up front, because it's going to come
round and bite you, guarantee. One thing to keep in mind, a good
provider who neither cheats nor beats could belong in a museum for
God bless, Donna.
I am a teacher in a big university in
a state that I will not name, for fear that the big shots up top
will not take kindly to my complaint. Keep it in the family they
say, only they are not my family, capish? Anyway, in two different
classes in the past week, the cell phone rings and a boy jumps up
saying to me, I have to take this call, it's my mother. Can you
believe it? What can I do to put an end to this? I am prevented,
by state law, from wringing their necks.
Anonymous from Anywhere.
What are you cracked? You're going to
tell a boy not to talk to his mother? And what if he listens to
you? That's worse. Two possibilities- mamma is phoning in with the
results of major surgery or something like it, so what can you do?
Or two, she is just making sure the apron strings are pulled tight
around the testicolos , in which case, there is nothing you can
do either Of course, it also might be that they just SAY it's their
mother so you can not interrupt, this is on their heads, and the
time and place of their pay back is not up to you. Just know that
it will come.
God bless, Donna
A NOTE TO ANONYMOUS FROM THE NORTH
Under no circumstances should you serve
the salad first, I don't care what they say about you. Where is
your pride, and what do they know anyway about the way things are
done? Salad is last, and please don't put the dressing on until
you are just ready to serve. This will ensure the harmony that is
now escaping you.
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Monk is a full time faculty member of Penn State University, where
she teaches creative writing, both fiction and non fiction. She
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